“Your thought processing will not allow you to admit your mistakes because you would then interpret them to mean that you have failed which your subconscious says cannot be admitted or the world will end. While I do not believe this is the fate that is ordained or necessary, let’s finish out the preparation of this unhealthy meal. Let’s talk about this recipe for unhappiness that is created by this negative thought processing. For example, we can add to the recipe for unhappiness by also stirring in some so-called bad experiences you have so successfully stored for immediate misuse. Drop in a quart of negative feelings about you rationalizing away some of the things that really bothered you, then add a cup of guilt or remorse or regret by concluding that you allow the situation to exist when you knew it was not the best or right thing. When it was not really what you wanted.
And with this concoction you’ll create ‘unhappy’ meals. With the energy you intend to direct to this endeavor, your distasteful meals will be completely cooked. You now have a gourmet meal of negativity that you will feed yourself for weeks and months to come. And you’ll wonder why you’re sick or you’re feeling bad. Adding to this nightmare, you will now judge yourself for the creation. In fact, you’ve decided in these situations to be the judge, jury, and executioner in holding yourself unreasonably accountable for whatever it is that you think you already knew about. Or whatever you think you should have done. Or whatever you think you should have done. So that whatever happened could not have happened. No matter what has happened, you have determined that it must be resolved in your mind with a conclusion that you didn’t get what you want for no good reason.
Perhaps you then reason, that the situation must have negatively impacted you. ‘I didn’t get what I wanted,’ you say, ‘there must be something wrong with me.’ This kind of thinking pattern clouds your ability to recognize the incredible amount of knowledge and awareness that is gained about yourself. I have news for you. Regardless of what caused the past event, and even a case where YOU sabotaged the situation…you can still acquire very useful and very positive information from every experience.”